Category 1: Some people fear they will not like their integrated selves if they let the SDBs go.
- I will find out I am a person I couldn't like.
- I will be dumb and incompetent after all.
- I won't have warmth to communicate. I'll be cold and unfeeling.
- I will be weak and vulnerable.
- I will not be up to the task of coping with life.
- I will be inadequate-- verbally, intellectually, emotionally, and physically.
- I will find I have no inner self. I am afraid I will find my entire self is full of SDBs.
- I will find a person full of hate.
- I will find an untrustworthy person.
- I will be unattractive.
- I will be unable to control my emotions: anger, sadness, loneliness, happiness.
- I will find a sex maniac within myself.
- I will find a person lacking in common sense.
- I will find a person unable to handle responsibility.
- I will find a person unable to change.
- I will find out I am a hideous person.
- I will find a mentally ill person.
- I will be frigid.
- I will be compatible with the rest of society.
- I will find a conformist.
- I will be lazy.
- I will find a person who likes being bad.
- Category 2: Some people fear they will become too vulnerable if they do not use their SDB patterns.
- Others will lose respect for me and will disapprove and reject me.
- I fear that if I drop my SDBs, I will hurt so much over what I have done in the past I won't be able to handle it.
- I fear I will lose the security I now have.
- Demands will be put on me I can't handle.
- If others do not want me around, I will be so lonely I will not be able to cope with it.
- I will be terribly hurt if I do not hold myself back.
- Someone will see my true feelings and take advantage of me.
- Responsible living will be too heavy, and I will not like it or be able to cope with it satisfactorily.
- I will do things to drive away people who are important to me.
- I will be stuck with whom I find and will be unable to change.
- God will condemn me.
- I will mess up the future.
- I will be caught forever in deep depressions with no way to get out.
- I will look foolish.
- I won't be able to control my own time.
- I will have no control over wrong things I will say.
- People will ridicule me, and I will have no satisfactory way to handle this.
- I fear I will die a horrible death.
- I will be lost forever.
- I will be shut away in an institution.
- I do not know what will happen, but I fear it will be bad.
- Unknowingly I will damage others.
- It will disturb my family relationships too much.
- Category 3: Some people will have generalized fears about going down the non-SDB road.
- I fear the non-SDB route will be more difficult than the defeating route.
- The non-SDB route is more risky than the defeating one.
- I'll have to pay even higher prices to give up my SDB pattern. (Cudney, 1975:21-23)
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